perf(P6B.T8): virtualize message list with react-virtuoso

Switches the ConversationPage chat list from a full O(N) render to
windowed rendering via react-virtuoso. On long histories only the
visible rows (plus a 400px overscan buffer) live in the DOM, ending the
scroll jank and layout thrashing that hit conversations with >500
messages.

Preserved behaviors:
- Newest message visible on open via initialTopMostItemIndex.
- Auto-scroll on send via a pending-count-based effect (the old
  setStickToBottom + useLayoutEffect pattern doesn't apply now that
  Virtuoso owns the scroll element).
- Realtime auto-follow only when scrolled to bottom (followOutput).
- 'New messages while away' counter + 'jump to newest' pill via
  atBottomStateChange.
- Pinned-message / reply / search jumps via virtuosoRef.scrollToIndex;
  expands displayCount on the fly if the target is outside the
  rendered slice. Flash highlight unchanged.
- Load-older infinite scroll via Virtuoso startReached (replaces the
  IntersectionObserver-on-sentinel pattern).
- Per-conversation position memory now keys on row index instead of
  pixel scrollTop (the latter isn't meaningful under virtualization).

Also wires the PinnedMessagesPanel onJump callback (previously a TODO
that just closed the panel) into jumpToMessage, since virtualization
made the smooth-scroll-from-pinned UX easy to deliver as a side
benefit.

apps/desktop/package.json

@@ -35,6 +35,7 @@
     "react-easy-crop": "^5.5.7",
     "react-i18next": "^15.1.1",
     "react-router-dom": "^6.28.0",
+    "react-virtuoso": "^4.18.7",
     "zustand": "^5.0.1"
   },
   "devDependencies": {